BANKY W ADESUA ETOMI GIVES LIVE TESTIMONY FOR PEOPLE THAT LAUGHED AT THEM FOR BEING CHILDLESS
Banky W Adesua Etomi Gives Live Testimony For People That Laughed At Them For Being Childless…
“@BankyW – @AdesuaEtomiW and I shared a little bit of our story in Church… it might make you laugh or cry. But here’s hoping it will also help you heal and build your faith. Please watch & share “Final Say Faith” the story behind the song:”
Banky W used those lines above to introduce a 59 minute 48 Seconds Youtube video from their live testimony on Easter Sunday, at The Waterbrook Church ( TWB ) Ikoyi, Lagos, on which they shared their journey to child birth after their marriage in 2017, that inspired the song FINAL SAY.
In the message they titled ‘FINAL SAY FAITH’ Banky W and Adesua Etomi Wellington revealed the following:
1) Their marriage had challenges and they have misunderstandings sometimes like every other marriage.
2) They were trolled on social media and called all sorts of name for not having a child after some years of marriage which was very painful.
3) They did IVF ( In Vitro Fertilization ) twice of which one resulted in them having a twin that they lost prematurely.
4) They once considered Surrogacy ( a solution to childlessness backed by law on which another woman would get pregnant with Bankys sp3rm by by Artificial Insemination or IVF after signing an agreement that the child would be Adesuwa’s and she would keep it secret or face the law. Sometimes the woman gets paid, sometimes they do it voluntarily depending on their relationship with the intending parents ).
5) God Makes things beautiful at his own time and not our time.
Speaking on the topic centered around John 11:1-57 from the Bible , Banky W said their son Ziiah is the best thing to ever happen in their life as God gave him to them as their 2021 birthday present.
He also advised intending couples should make sure they go through marriage counselling before getting married for it would help them in marriage as the marriage counselling session they had before getting married has helped them a couple of time they had a misunderstanding in their marriage.
Also speaking on the marriage counselling Adesua Etomi said couples should understand each others love language which can be any of the following: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmantion, Quality Time, Physical Touch, and Gifts. She revealed her and Banky was home one time for almost a week without talking to each other because Banky has not understood her love language, things got better soon as he realized she is the type that loves him spending quality time with her and he made adjustments.
On people trolling them on social media, Banky W and Adesua revealed that there was one time they couldnt speak on any issue without people reminding them that they are childless. Some even went to the extent of saying he is impotent and Adesua couldnt get pregnant because she had tampered with her womb like other desperate beautiful ladies in the society. “The internet gives people the opportunity to unleash their pains on you cuz everyone goes through certain things that pains them. And when they see you in a happy or joyous mood, they will want to project that pain on you so you feel as they feel.” Banky said. Adesua also revealed she wailed at one instance and begged God to save them from the constant ridicule.
IVF ( In Vitro Fertilization ) is a very tasking and painful experience, the couple say about going through it twice and still not having a baby. “when i look at the drugs my wife had to take and the injections that goes with it, i feel they are too many but there was nothing we could do about it as we wanted a baby.” Says Banky.
On going for Surrogacy to save them the ridicule, the couple revealed they decided to go for it after the heat of not being able to have a child of their own got the best of them but they were not contented on the inside with the idea so they let it pass as they wont engage in anything that would spoil their inner peace.
On beleiving in God and waiting on his time for things to work out in our lives, he said the following:
“Having faith in God will not stop bad times from coming. It wont stop you from hurting. But your faith in God will help you heal, it will help you get back up. It will help you keep going and get the answer you require.”
The couple also reveal that they are not limiting their testimony to The Waterbrook Church alone as they would go to other medias to repeat the testimony as it would encourage many married people who are going through the same experience. Speaking on this, Adesua said the following:
“Am coming out here to say all these things because i promised God that i would and i know that our testimony is tied to the fate of so many people and there is nothing anyone can do to shut me up.”
From us here is congratulations to Banky W and Adesua Etomi Wellington again.
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