“Sitting in my car, even with the air conditioner set to the lowest temperature, I was sweating profusely.”
“I cannot forget in a hurry how I allowed my bestie, Tega, to brainwash me with her sweet talks. She often told me how she makes a lot of money (off her husband) from the house keep allowance, house help allowance, school fees, NEPA bills, estate security/maintenance bills, even at every opportunity she gets. (She calls it.. extra income for the “Super-Smart Big Gurls”)
Ever since Junior entered primary school, I made up my mind to become a super-smart big gurl….Since, I the one in charge of liaising with the school and sorting out everything about junior’s academics. It was very easy for me to cut corners. My husband usually sends the money to my account, He sends whatever amount I ask him to send for school fees. (Since he works outside the city and only comes home fortnightly)
While our son was in Primary 1 & 2, on many occasions, I collected up to 4 times the total amount requested by the school from my husband.
Now that our son is in primary 3…My husband called me to send details of the school bills to him. Even Yesterday morning, he asked me to confirm the details again to him via SMS or chat. He promised to send the money, latest today by 12 noon.
Though the total bill was just about one hundred thousand naira, I sent inflated figures to my husband, requesting for a sum of about half a million naira (about 5 times the real value.)
My husbands totally trusts me and doesn’t have any reasons to doubt me until now.
Eventually, I managed to put the car back on the road. (Though I wasn’t if I was the one driving the car…my heart was racing)
On getting home, fidgeting, I went to my husband’s room…there, lying on his table, I found a note written in my husband’s handwriting:
TO THE STRANGE WOMAN IN MY BEDROOM:
“Yesterday, I came home much earlier than you expected. I wanted to surprise you with a piece of property (a multilevel building) that I just acquired for you in central district of Abuja… Infact, I purchased the property IN YOUR NAME.
While I looking for a safe place in your room to put the building documents, I stumbled on junior’s school bill for this term. I also noticed that you have clearly doctored the bill. I didn’t believe it…so I gave you another chance to tell me the truth (when I asked you to confirm the bill again via chat, yesterday morning) but instead, you sent me exaggerated figures again.
I was forced to trace the school yesterday afternoon, just to confirm what you sent to me (Hoping that I was wrong about you)….only to discover that what you sent to me is way over and above what the school actually require.
I can’t believe that I have been living with a lying woman and a cheat. How am I sure that the one I call Junior, is even my son? When I get back to town, we will go for a #DNA #test.”
That was when I realised what Jesus meant when he said: “it is finished” ….my marriage of 8 years was completely finished!
I had betrayed my husband’s trust. How would I ever earn his trust again?
Even if he forgives me, Can he ever trust me again? Can I say I still have a marriage? Can this marriage still work?
I want all women (single & married) to learn from my story. No matter the freedom or freehand you are given…pls #don’t #abuse #it. It is the little foxes (of lying, hiding things) that spoil the vine of good relationships/marriage. Be faithful, loyal, open, truthful, and straight forward with your partner, in all things and at all times. You may not cheat by having extra marital affair but I hope you are not cheating in some other underground or silent ways?
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Thanks for reading through.
BY Otulana Funsho